| As a man I know this fear well. If you've read any of | | | | available and or present for him. |
| my other articles here in this ezine you'll know that I | | | | Now please don't take me wrong here. I'm not here to |
| suffered from paralyzing shyness most of my life and | | | | blame mothers. They have a hard enough job as it is. |
| of how I managed to release this destructive problem | | | | It's more that the nature of being a parent is such that |
| from my mind and body permanently. | | | | they cannot, and I repeat cannot, be fully available for |
| Well the fear of approaching attractive women was a | | | | their children emotionally. |
| significant component of this shyness. | | | | Additionally, any parent who compulsively tries to do |
| Each and every time I would notice an attractive | | | | this is, is in my view modeling a false perception of a |
| woman who I wanted to get to know I would become | | | | reality for that child and may in some ways be doing |
| very anxious at the thought of approaching her. My | | | | them a disservice at some level. |
| mind would become clouded with numerous negative | | | | So what is to be done about this situation? |
| thoughts such as: | | | | Well as I said the problem arises as a result of the |
| 1. Don't even bother; you're wasting your time. | | | | inherent course of one's early life experience. |
| 2. She doesn't want to talk to you. | | | | Until now it was felt that the imprints of that life |
| 3. What if she rejects you; you'll look foolish even | | | | experience, which many refer to as mental, emotional |
| stupid. | | | | and body memories, were hard wired into each |
| 4. Don't make yourself vulnerable to being | | | | individual once they occurred. |
| embarrassed or humiliated in public. | | | | Yes, some could be changed or altered somewhat |
| 5. You're too emotionally vulnerable to risk being | | | | through various forms of therapy (i.e. hypnosis, |
| rejected. | | | | psychotherapy, EMDR, EFT, TFT etc.) however the |
| 6. You just don't deserve having any kind of contact | | | | thought that they could be completely and permanently |
| with such women. | | | | released forever, leaving the individual with the |
| 7. You're too ugly and unattractive. | | | | experience that "they never happened" was unheard |
| 8. And so on. | | | | of. |
| These, needless to say, caused me to abort the idea | | | | Well not only is that possible now, with a new and |
| of saying anything and often left me feeling like a | | | | powerful procee, it is essential for the problems that |
| complete failure. This only re-inforced the problem as it | | | | they cause e.g. the fear of approaching attractive |
| drove my confidence level to lower depths. | | | | women, to be addressed once and for all. |
| Almost every man I know, if they are honest with | | | | So if you have such a problem, and if you are male |
| themselves has had such negative thoughts and/or | | | | believe me you do, then don't those attractive women |
| feelings at some time. | | | | deserve to get to know the attractive person that is |
| Most of them focus on the fear of being rejected and | | | | you? |
| thus feeling deeply humiliated and wounded as a result. | | | | If you would like to be free of such fears once and for |
| At a deeper level it is my experience that such | | | | all and begin your journey to a fulfilling life of joy, love |
| feelings of vulnerability are rooted in early childhood | | | | and happiness kindly visit the web link below and |
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